tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6910013964875645312.post5873121162689452960..comments2023-09-19T06:20:52.598-05:00Comments on Give1Save1-Africa: A Little Gracekatiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633557287677635584noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6910013964875645312.post-80798205215817709882012-09-13T14:39:19.323-05:002012-09-13T14:39:19.323-05:00I'm with Jenny. As someone in the process, re...I'm with Jenny. As someone in the process, reading the blogs, and looking for adoptive friends, I'm so gun shy to even talk to families. My husband and I have been to adoptive activities and trying to reach out to make friends, but we're so nervous about offending someone.<br /><br />Recently at a baseball game, there was a family that was obviously adoptive. The lil boy was wearing the baseball jersey of my nephew's favorite player. I looked at my husband and did a "OMG, he's so cute. Look at his jersey; just like Ian!" Then freaked out in my head, because I worried that the mom thought I was pointing him out bc he was adopted. So nervous, I am!! Awkward too, but that's another story!<br /><br />Thanks for the gesture of grace! Kara Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13588849929361260249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6910013964875645312.post-29555070215775874152012-09-13T07:29:35.927-05:002012-09-13T07:29:35.927-05:00Yes & AMEN! Well said, Beth (=Yes & AMEN! Well said, Beth (=Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00789083786866242819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6910013964875645312.post-9189528839793860342012-09-12T18:03:52.729-05:002012-09-12T18:03:52.729-05:00Great article, Beth! Great article, Beth! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08399077453242153825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6910013964875645312.post-37603120263276576762012-09-12T12:17:19.204-05:002012-09-12T12:17:19.204-05:00I love this post, Beth!! I know that I often feel ...I love this post, Beth!! I know that I often feel nervous to ask a family if they've adopted (when it's obvious they have) because I don't want to be "rude." BUT, I'm really just dying to know if their little one is from the same country as our future son or daughter!! I really just want to run up and hug their kiddo but I hold myself back :-). Anyhow, I love this and am glad to know that I'm not the only one who thinks we need to lighten up a bit with all of the PC'ness of adoption. I know it will be hard in the moment sometimes but I still think this post is perfectly stated! thanks for sharing!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04173221116118498902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6910013964875645312.post-85074589114724072452012-09-12T12:16:27.591-05:002012-09-12T12:16:27.591-05:00oh, sweet! you are so articulate and i am so not. ...oh, sweet! you are so articulate and i am so not. yep, that's what i mean to say. bingo. :) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00634231113201712048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6910013964875645312.post-69877089613325628842012-09-12T12:12:26.472-05:002012-09-12T12:12:26.472-05:00Love this post! So true! We took our little man ...Love this post! So true! We took our little man to church for the first time...he's about ten shades darker than me and my hubby and I could see people wanting to ask about how we became a family. I wish they would have!...and I know sometimes people can get rude or nosy but that's okay, too...Lord give me the grace to answer with love! It is not up to the world to educate themselves on adoption in order to help make me feel more comfortable. It is up to me and my hubby to educate our son so he grows up being proud of his story and to give grace to others who may not understand and have questions...and if they are rude to him....well that's just the reality of the world we live in. Not everybody is going to be good.Ashley O'Brienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06068093199439139720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6910013964875645312.post-1602553529772026952012-09-12T11:45:29.157-05:002012-09-12T11:45:29.157-05:00I'm one who recently posted on Adoption Etique...I'm one who recently posted on Adoption Etiquette and I really have to say the following excerpt from my blog post sums up how I feel. <br /><br />"We love to use these opportunities to educate others on the appropriate way to say or ask things (birth parents or first family vs. real parents, etc). We truly know that many are just curious how everything works or the history of how we came to be. Sadly, others are beyond curious and to the point of nosy and an even smaller number of people are outright rude.<br /><br />I really try to give an answer covered in grace...however, there are times they catch me completely off guard, the children are out of sorts, I'm short on time, you get the point...and my answers or tone are not the grace filled words I desire!"<br /><br />You can read the whole post on my website. We truly love talking about adoption but sadly, the truth is we do deal with many negative and even rude comments...sometimes it truly feels like we hear the negative more than the positive. Always an opportunity to educate, though, and that is was we try to emphasize! <br /><br />http://www.homespunheritage.net/2012/09/adoption-etiquette.html Jolenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05951367929237400765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6910013964875645312.post-42703887365096449812012-09-12T11:12:00.604-05:002012-09-12T11:12:00.604-05:00I LOVE this! We should be joyfully sharing what Go...I LOVE this! We should be joyfully sharing what God is doing through us by His grace alone. We don't want to give the impression that we're "adoption snobs"...especially when we are doing it in Jesus' name! thank you for sharing this! McKnight Mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10616831049399640703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6910013964875645312.post-90041028570358252012012-09-12T10:44:34.296-05:002012-09-12T10:44:34.296-05:00Very well said!Very well said!Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15267386389476136364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6910013964875645312.post-25528822611410382602012-09-12T09:55:22.076-05:002012-09-12T09:55:22.076-05:00oh, goodness, thanks for the comment. i was dead n...oh, goodness, thanks for the comment. i was dead nervous writing it, actually. but it's good to know i'm not the only one who's open to a friendly chat.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00634231113201712048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6910013964875645312.post-70599896442974681172012-09-12T09:39:04.627-05:002012-09-12T09:39:04.627-05:00I LOVE this post!!!! I love talking about adoptio...I LOVE this post!!!! I love talking about adoption to anyone who is willing to talk with me. I do get offended if someone asks if they are "real sisters" and I get annoyed when people skirt around the topic. I would rather them just ask, Did you adopt. <br /> Any time I see a transracial family I always ask if they adopted. I just want to talk adoption and make friends, but you can tell the people who have a chip and quickly turn their back on me. But I wouldn't want to be friends with that person anyway. hahannieglanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14858946400846580793noreply@blogger.com